“They won’t let me play.”
“She said I can’t be a mermaid too.”
“I had it first.”
These are examples of the great conversations that we have around here. It can get tiring. Being a referee is draining. So, how can we turn that around? Well, we can’t totally win that battle. However, hopefully we can praise more than we correct. We are working on it around here.
For me, one of the greatest privileges and biggest responsibilities of parenting is encouraging my children’s character to shine for Christ. While we certainly have not perfected this in ourselves or our children, we do want to encourage it. This world is a hard, hard place. It takes about two minutes of life to realize that we are battling all sorts of external influences. We feel that the more that we can do to help direct their actions, the better.
One of the things that we have done at our house is what we call “Bulb Bucks.” When we catch our girls doing something that is symbolic of letting their light shine for Christ, we award them one. This could be a kind word to a sibling, giving encouragement to a friend or family member, being extra helpful without being asked and a host of other things. While these are some of the things that we also expect, we feel that pointing them out and rewarding them helps to solidify that they are important parts of good character.
When our girls have accumulated five bulb bucks, they can visit our treasure chest and trade them in for a prize. I have filled this with a collection of mostly dollar store finds that appeal to the girls’ interests.
My husband made a cute printable for the bucks that we hand out. I have included it here. Feel free to print away.